Facing Shame To Claim Freedom and Spaciousness With Ryan Vaughn
Facing Shame To Claim Freedom and Spaciousness With Ryan Vaughn
A wide ranging discussion with Ryan Vaughn from Inside-Out Leadership
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Shame was a distant word in my vocabulary for a long period of my life.
Not because I was afraid of it, but because I generally thought I didn’t have much to deal with.
Boy was I WRONG.
Over the years, I continue to be amazed at the extent and ingenuity to which shame has camouflaged itself from my consciousness in the name of self-preservation.
As I’ve worked with it, I’ve come to see how much of a limiter it was on my experience without me having any awareness of it.
The topic of shame and how to work with it is the jumping-off point in this wide-ranging discussion with my friend
.Ryan is an accomplished entrepreneur who spent 10 years building VNN, the largest high school sports marketing and media network in the United States. He’s since moved into the world of executive coaching starting his firm Inside-Out Leadership which is the only coaching firm that I know of completely comprised of exited founders who also integrate consciousness work.
I find Ryan to be an incredibly thoughtful guy and compelling speaker which is why I was excited to have him on the show.
In this conversation, we unpack how and why developing a more effective relationship with shame can be such a profound unlock for improving your life and leadership ability. This exploration bleeds into how to increasingly move towards emptiness so that you can meet life as spacious awareness.
A lot of times people don’t make the connection between awareness and creating compelling outcomes in business. Thankfully it seems like this is slowly starting to change. Greater awareness facilitates greater agency for how we respond to any situation and enhances our capacity for better solutions. All these components ladder up to being a better leader.
One of the main points of interest for me was this notion of meta-emotions. Specifically, how we often have an emotion about the fact that we’re experiencing an emotion. For example, maybe you had an unpleasant thought, and then you feel bad about the fact that you were thinking that. These vicious loops often result in bypass which prevents us from healing these experiences so we don’t have to continue to re-experience them. Ryan shares the role that grace can have working in these situations which I think is an incredibly helpful insight.
Ryan is a great speaker and has lots of wisdom to give the world. He also writes a great substack that you can check out here.
I hope you enjoy this one!
-Scott
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