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Congrats, Scott! Fatherhood is by far the most meaningful and inspirational experience I have ever had. Enjoy the adventures with Anastacia!

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Congratulations on becoming a father, Scott! It’s a sacred duty and honor and I get the feeling from your writing that you will do an incredible job.

There’s something indescribable about the love between parents and children. It’s one of life’s miracles and also one of the greatest responsibilities to carry.

If its if any help, I wrote a bit about parenting and some of the philosophies I’ve adopted over time. “Take what’s useful and discard the rest” - excellent advice! 😉

https://poetx.substack.com/p/cultivating-the-childs-mind-the-power

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Scott - This is such a beautiful and honest reflection. As my three trot off, two back to college and my “baby” to her senior year in high school, I am reminded of those precious first weeks and how much I grew as a person back then ... and how my kids are my best teachers. Your daughter is lucky to have such a wise and ever-curious dad! What a gift. 💕

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Sep 10, 2023Liked by Scott Britton

I have a newborn as well, he’s 8 weeks now and he also calms down when I walk outside onto our porch, it’s fascinating.

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Yesss! I’ve been anticipating a post like this for a while now. Great to see you channeling and sharing all of this wisdom through fatherhood. So many beautiful reflections 🙏

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Congratulations! I resonate with a lot of what you’ve said. I’m two weeks behind you, our son Noah is 1 week old :) I always wondered why some people didn’t like babies. I thought that it was because they can be loud, smelly and demanding. Fair enough. But what you said about the hollow bone and them being a sort of blank slate, that makes me wonder if that essence of pureness of spirit is another reason people can be uncomfortable around little ones.

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Sep 5, 2023Liked by Scott Britton

Congrats Scott!!! We're also expecting our first - also a baby girl - in the next 3 weeks. Encouraging to read at the end that the first few weeks aren't always as crazy as people say they are.

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Sep 5, 2023Liked by Scott Britton

Ahhhh! Congrats Scott!! Please send my love to Zaharo. What a beautiful first few weeks 🩵

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Sweet. Thank you for sharing.

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Oct 25, 2023Liked by Scott Britton

When my wife was expecting our first, we took an infant CPR class and the ER nurse that led the class ended with this piece of wisdom, "never discuss your parenting choices with anyone". And it turned out to be the best advice. For whatever reason, people will adopt positions over things like whether fruit or veg or something else should be an infant's "first" solid food. But rather than taking the "that's interesting" non-position when they hear something contrary to what they're doing they'll get militant about why they're right. And the truth of the matter is it doesn't matter as much as people like to think and everyone's experience will be different. No two cultures are identical when it comes to raising children and yet we're all here and most of us are thriving. Another example: people where we live now would freak out about sleeping with the baby in their bed but in our culture it was standard practice. After a couple of nights of getting up to feed we both agreed "f* it" and just placed her between us and that was that. I went from being a notorious toss and turn sleeper to being an immovable object. But not talking about it also stopped me from judging others who firmly believed letting theirs cry was good for them. Three of them later, we often reflect on how much that advice saved us from putting too much stock in the relevance of other people's experiences and remaining grounded that the most important thing for us was to be in harmony that we were doing what worked for us and aligned with our own views. That's not to say we didn't trust experts (we have the same pediatrician today and rely on him for anything medical) but there are enough real worries out there without compounding them needlessly. Enjoy. And buy lots of life insurance. :)

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So happy you’re enjoying the first month. It just gets better too!

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Congrats on the new baby Scott! I still remember the earth quaking moment I came across the idea that we might choose our family of origin. It helped me see many things in a new light and brought on waves of gratitude and acceptance that I hadn't thought about before. Our higher selves really know what they're doing! Wishing you all the best on your parenthood journey.

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Congratulations, brother. Welcome to this side of the parenthood portal. Beautiful that you're reflecting like this; there's so much to learn! And I'm only 19 months past my son's birth myself.

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Scott, I have never heard parenting stated so beautifully - to be a steward to that journey. D

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Sep 5, 2023Liked by Scott Britton

Beautiful article, Scott! Many congratulations on your growing family.

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I enjoyed these first weeks and months immensely, and feel sad for people, who for whatever reason, aren't able to experience these magical moments with their children.

A lovely read. Took me back.

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