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Eva Live's avatar

Listening now (just 19 minutes in) and stuff is coming up, so I thought I would comment.

It feels like an ungentle approach, just stop doing it. But that doesn't take into account what's underlying why the human is engaging with suffering. Why there's holding onto clinging. Why you're maintaining an identity.

He seems to be saying, it's just so simple. You're suffering. Stop thinking.

It's sort of like what an ex-boyfriend told me when I was sitting deeply with feelings that were like my internal alarm system saying this whole scenario is off (there was a codependency going on in that relationship, and I'd lost my sense of internal sovereignty). While that was going on, he told me that he has chosen that when something "negative" arises, to just turn it off, just stop thinking. That wasn't my choice, but he tried to put it on me, and it added the third or tenth arrow or whatever to what I was feeling, because he completely made no space for me to have feelings or process.

From my own inner guidance path of accessing a consistent inner voice conversation, I've never been told "stop thinking". Rather I bring the pain down and say all that it is. Then what comes is a deeper understanding, so all these instances of triggering and suffering have been used to come to much greater understanding. The closest that came to being told to "stop" was probably a few weeks ago when I awoke at night crying about not belonging in my family, and inner voice explained that there was holding a victim state, and that victim state is not loving. My mind was seeing it as sort of "they're wrong; I'm in the right", like a "self-righteousness" thing. But when that message came with love, there was increased understanding. From that understanding, I chose to let go of the victim state. Then all the suffering was gone immediately, and energy returned to my body. But I didn't stop the story prior to that to just stop feeling suffering.

One of my biggest breakthrough sessions last year was about how the ego is rooted in love -- that at the root of why ego is held is entirely love. That was so shocking and freeing, and more to write about when it's ready. But the point is that when you just try to stop what you're doing, it often doesn't work, because the very deep root reason you're doing that is actually love. And we're here to love.

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Viktor Balogh's avatar

Hi Scott,

I'm a former apprentice of Ralston, I've been studying with him for over 6 years now, and just wanted to thank you for doing the interview with him.

I have not found anybody alive even close to being as profound as him and his work, and because of this I really want more people to hear about him. He does not care about marketing at all. He is over 70 now and I would be very sad to see him pass away before a wider audience can hear about his work. It changed my life and I'll be forever grateful for him.

Hope to see you one day down in Pipe Creek!

Thank you again and best regards,

Viktor Balogh

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